If one is interested in subjects on self-development, one may often hear it said that: we are quite disconnected from life, or that there is a disconnection between society and people. What does this mean: To be disconnected?
If I ask you: Why did you come to the class this evening? The overall response will be: Because I wanted to. Of course each of you will have specific reasons of why you did it, but in the end it will be: Because I choose to. It makes sense, doesn’t it? I mean, you decided to come, and you came. What else is there?
Well…this is true, but not completely true.
Let’s say you took a metro to come here and in the middle of the ride the metro stops and you hear over the loud speaker: ‘Good evening ladies and gentleman, we are having some difficulties with the train and we are very sorry to let you know that there is going to be a delay of 45 minutes’. If this had actually happened, you would not be here now.
Or let’s say you are about to leave from your job to come here and suddenly your boss calls you and tells you that there is an urgent matter that needs attending and that it should take about an hour to resolve. If this had happened, you would not be here now.
Or you came by car and you had a flat tire and you find out that you don’t have a spare tire; you most definitely would not be here now.
Or else on your way here you suddenly experience a very strong headache, most probably you would not be here now.
Or imagine there is an earthquake and buildings start to collapse all around you: you will not be here now.
Or let’s say you twist your ankle, you will not be here now.
We can go on with millions of reasons as to why you may not have been here today. All these reasons bundled together is what I call Life. (In the past, we may have called these events God, but there are so many connotations, associations and projections I really prefer to leave the word ‘God’ aside and simply call all these events Life).
My desire, my will, is like a drop in a big ocean of Life, and this big ocean of Life is what allows me to be here now. The disconnect lies in the fact that we often live our lives without concern, relationship or gratitude for this ocean called Life. But if you really think about it, anything that has ever happened occurred not simply because we desired that it should happen, but because Life allowed it to happen.
Often we don’t see that each of our desires is no more than a drop in the big ocean of Life. At the same time, a single desire is quite important. A huge ocean is composed of many drops in the same way that our life—comprised of 70 or 80 years—is actually a series of seconds (in actual fact about 2.5 billion seconds), and yet each second is very important. Each decision is important in the same sense as a drop in relation to the ocean or a second in relation to our life is important.
For any event to happen, no matter how big or small, a whole, immense sea of events had to move in a certain direction to allow our impulse to manifest. When we take credit for what we accomplish or feel bad for what we were not able to accomplish we are truly disconnected. In reality, Life allows or does not allow these events to occur.
If we truly understand this in our heart (not just in the head) we will start to see that every move we make in our life is not our own move, but it is the movement of the ocean, the movement of Life.
At the same time, each drop entails a large responsibility. For example: in order to be here this evening, we had to plan our day accordingly; make certain decisions and preparations. This is our job. If we hadn’t prepared in this way, we would never have made it here. But having done all that was required, we must submit to the final outcome, and this outcome is up to Life. Life is in charge. And by connecting to Life, we give credit where credit is due.
At this point something very beautiful happens: the whole vision of our life expands. Instead of taking Life for granted, we become grateful, and gratitude brings immense joy. When we start to appreciate that whatever occurs is actually allowed to occur by Life, then we are no longer separated from Life. We ARE Life. When we see that we are here tonight because Life allowed it, we will simply give thanks, or more accurately, we will experience a sense of gratitude for what is happening.
On the other hand, when our desires don’t achieve what they intend to achieve, we can see them as no more than another drop in this huge ocean; and so we would not become upset. We only become upset when we believe that the outcome of events depends entirely on ourselves. Having seen that it is Life the one that decides whether or not things occur, we are left only to embrace the result; we understand that events could not have occurred in any other way. We understand that to change one thing, the whole universe has to change.
One can apply this principle to our classes. While doing some of the more difficult exercises, some of us will be able to perform them well, and we can certainly take credit for it. But another way to look at this is that Life has allowed us—at this particular moment—to do the exercises well. What would happen if we twist an ankle tomorrow? No matter how well trained we may be, we will not be able to do them.
At the same time, while doing the same exercises, there will be some other people that will not be able to do them well, and they could feel bad about themselves, or else they could say: ‘this is something that Life, at this particular moment, does not allow me to do. I can try to do whatever is in my power to change this, like training more often or eating healthier foods, but in the end, it will be up to Life to allow me to do it or not.’ In this way, despite what happens, we can relate it to Life. We can re-connect to Life.
And so we can use the special environment of the class, not only to move and work with our body, but also to observe ourselves, to reflect, to verify how each of us is so intimately related to Life; to experience how much we are interwoven.
And finally, there may come a time when not only in a particular environment—but under any circumstance—we will be able to experience that Life and ourselves are actually one and the same.